Dental Babe

At Last

Finley, just call me Dental Lab Tec.

Thanks to my buddies and my auntie, I am working my dream job. There is no stopping me now.
Star Wars, Leia

This Sucks

Finding a job is so hard here in Kansas. As E and I are trying to separate our lives and make this separation as smooth as possible for the children. I find myself at a loss. E was talking to his banker the other day and got a very helpful tidbit about a job opening. So today I will go and apply at the Dental office and see how it goes.
Maybe I will get lucky and make enough to live in a box. Who knows.

Introverted Sensing Feeling Judging

I took the test again and I am still an ISFJ.

ISFJs are characterized above all by their desire to serve others, their "need to be needed." In extreme cases, this need is so strong that standard give-and-take relationships are deeply unsatisfying to them; however, most ISFJs find more than enough with which to occupy themselves within the framework of a normal life. (Since ISFJs, like all SJs, are very much bound by the prevailing social conventions, their form of "service" is likely to exclude any elements of moral or political controversy; they specialize in the local, the personal, and the practical.)

ISFJs are often unappreciated, at work, home, and play. Ironically, because they prove over and over that they can be relied on for their loyalty and unstinting, high-quality work, those around them often take them for granted--even take advantage of them. Admittedly, the problem is sometimes aggravated by the ISFJs themselves; for instance, they are notoriously bad at delegating ("If you want it done right, do it yourself"). And although they're hurt by being treated like doormats, they are often unwilling to toot their own horns about their accomplishments because they feel that although they deserve more credit than they're getting, it's somehow wrong to want any sort of reward for doing work (which is supposed to be a virtue in itself). (And as low-profile Is, their actions don't call attention to themselves as with charismatic Es.) Because of all of this, ISFJs are often overworked, and as a result may suffer from psychosomatic illnesses.

In the workplace, ISFJs are methodical and accurate workers, often with very good memories and unexpected analytic abilities; they are also good with people in small-group or one-on-one situations because of their patient and genuinely sympathetic approach to dealing with others. ISFJs make pleasant and reliable co-workers and exemplary employees, but tend to be harried and uncomfortable in supervisory roles. They are capable of forming strong loyalties, but these are personal rather than institutional loyalties; if someone they've bonded with in this way leaves the company, the ISFJ will leave with them, if given the option. Traditional careers for an ISFJ include: teaching, social work, most religious work, nursing, medicine (general practice only), clerical and and secretarial work of any kind, and some kinds of administrative careers.

While their work ethic is high on the ISFJ priority list, their families are the centers of their lives. ISFJs are extremely warm and demonstrative within the family circle--and often possessive of their loved ones, as well. When these include Es who want to socialize with the rest of the world, or self-contained ITs, the ISFJ must learn to adjust to these behaviors and not interpret them as rejection. Being SJs, they place a strong emphasis on conventional behavior (although, unlike STJs, they are usually as concerned with being "nice" as with strict propriety); if any of their nearest and dearest depart from the straight-and-narrow, it causes the ISFJ major embarrassment: the closer the relationship and the more public the act, the more intense the embarrassment (a fact which many of their teenage children take gleeful advantage of). Over time, however, ISFJs usually mellow, and learn to regard the culprits as harmless eccentrics :-). Needless to say, ISFJs take infinite trouble over meals, gifts, celebrations, etc., for their loved ones--although strong Js may tend to focus more on what the recipient should want rather than what they do want.

Like most Is, ISFJs have a few, close friends. They are extremely loyal to these, and are ready to provide emotional and practical support at a moment's notice. (However, like most Fs they hate confrontation; if you get into a fight, don't expect them to jump in after you. You can count on them, however, run and get the nearest authority figure.) Unlike with EPs, the older the friendship is, the more an ISFJ will value it. One ISFJ trait that is easily misunderstood by those who haven't known them long is that they are often unable to either hide or articulate any distress they may be feeling. For instance, an ISFJ child may be reproved for "sulking," the actual cause of which is a combination of physical illness plus misguided "good manners." An adult ISFJ may drive a (later ashamed) friend or SO into a fit of temper over the ISFJ's unexplained moodiness, only afterwards to explain about a death in the family they "didn't want to burden anyone with." Those close to ISFJs should learn to watch for the warning signs in these situations and take the initiative themselves to uncover the problem.

Just saying.

I wanted to tell all of Eric's friends goodby. He asked me for a divorce and I know from experience how this works. Some of you I have known for about 15 years, some around 3. Just know that it saddens me to say goodby and I hope you all have great lives.


Live A Life That Matters

What Will Matter Ready or not, someday it will all come to an end.

There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.

All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.

It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.

Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear.

So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will expire.

The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.

It won’t matter where you came from, or on what side of the tracks you lived, at the end.

It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.

Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured? What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave?

What will matter is not your success, but your significance.

What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence, but your character.

What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you’re gone.

What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you.

What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident. It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.

Choose to live a life that matters.

~ Michael Josephson
Country Girls

Just Thinking


I have been trying to find information on self-sufficiency. I want a warehouse style place that is totally self-sufficient. Yet there is so little out there. My hope is that one day I can do this, I am so sick of paying a government that only is concerned with how much money they can get from huge companies. I know that I will be taxed well after I am dead. I just want to feel like I have some freedoms left. I want my children to grow, be healthy and happy.
Dental Babe

The first six

My first six weeks of dental assistant school is almost over, the class final is Friday. So far so good I have an A and I hope to keep it that way. This six weeks covered Clinical Dentistry and Dental Radiology. I also had the rare opportunity over winter break to go observe at my Aunt D's dental office. What a fantastic time I had.
When I began school I wanted to work in the dental lab. After being at a real dental office I have fallen in love with dental surgery. That will be my main goal for my future. I love in mid life having another goal to pursue.
Thank you to my best buds for telling me I can do this.
You know who you are.


Health is the greatest gift.
Contentment the greatest wealth.
Faithfulness the best relationship.

Childhood Waves

When I was a kid we went to the ocean in Mexico. Back then we could camp there and not be worried about anything. The heat of the sun, the light as my small face would look up into the sky with my eye's shut all my seances tingling all at once. I could even taste the salt in the air. Playing all day in the water with so much to explore. I remember the night on the beach, my little brother and I slept under the stars and when I closed my eye's and sweet sleep overtook me I could still feel those waves gently rocking me. I was eight and my world was fascinating.

This was 38 years ago and now I sometimes try to bring those feelings back to myself. The wonder and the absolute beauty of it all. I feel those waves rocking me to and fro sometimes. I welcome them for I know this is what being a child is all about. Pure joy.